It is incredible how quickly things change. I was last here on Thursday morning; Mum was quite chatty Wednesday, and getting more tired on Thursday. Today, a mere 4 days later, she is really a shadow of herself. She is looking gaunt and is simply resting. She occasionally stirs, and she did open her eyes, but it is unclear how much is was aware of where she was or what is going on. We had been told that she would simply get more tired and sleep more and more, and that this is a peaceful way to go - we didn't think it would happen this quickly and suddenly, though.
I had a chance to speak with her alone, knowing that she can hear even if there are no external signs of that. My friend Naomi had given me three gemstones to give Mum, related to Love, Emotions, and Communication. Mum had the velvet bag in her hand as I spoke with her. It's now on her pillow, her stuffed platypus and orca lying beside her body as she rests.
I've been told by people who have been through the same thing to remember her as she was and not as she is, and I certainly do have in mind more how I knew her and not this frail body - Marika was always more than who she was physically. It is difficult, however, not to see that vibrant lifeforce radiating as strongly.
The doctors here are really wonderful. That British fella from Hebden Bridge is in this week and was spending some time chatting with Dad, and I really have not seen Dad that lively and all in some time. It is very helpful to have someone here who raises his spirits, as he is certainly having a very challenging time.
Thank you all for your lovely messages - they are so very much appreciated.
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Dear Marika and David,
Just want to let you both know we are thinking of you all.
We have read Mark's messages everyday and know that it can't be easy for you.
Love from your old friends Jack and Hilary
David, Vicki, and Mark
My thoughts and love are with you during this difficult time. Thank you for caring for Marika with such courage and compassion. It is sad to have such a talented and lovely woman leave us. Reading the messages have been a great comfort.
Love Lynn xo
Thankyou... Marika,David,Mark and Vicky for all your sharing, it has made the journey with Marika very loving and personal. How we all feel the sadness and the beauty of Marika...and wish you every blessing and prayer to help you in these passing hours. With much love, Joy.
Dearest Viks and Mark: our thoughts are with you all.
love Nikki and Lucy.xx
Dear Marika and David,
We were very sad to read Mark's latest blog. Sending our love. Sandy and Gord Wallace
Marika, David, Mark, & Vicki,
We wish you the strength that is necessary for you all to pass through this most difficult time.
Love to you all,
Mary, Peter, Desmond, Fergus & Eilis
Dearest Marika,
Huge hellos and blessings to you as you leave this plane and embark on a new journey. You will be missed by your family and your very many friends and acquaintances. May you go in peace knowing how much you are loved.
I have read your blog daily following your progress. It is evident in the daily updates and in the many comments that you have touched a great many people and truly made a difference in their lives. i can see that your laughter and wit, your love of nature, music and the arts form the very fibre of your soul.
Dear David, Vicky and Mark,
How blessed you are to have the lively witty Marika in your lives. She has kept you on your toes and will for some time to come, I am sure!
Blessings and healing love to each of you as you go through these last days/hours together.
Hellos to ease and to having each moment as it presents itself.
Much love,
xxoo Naomi Rozell
Dearest Marika and loving family members and other friends,
The beautiful remarks sent by all are but a tiny measure of the love and high regard so many feel for Marika.
Though I am a recent friend of yours, Marika's, of your Victoria era, you have affected me strongly with your encouragement, firm counsel and keen comprehension. You enthusiasm and diverse interests have been an inspiration. May you rest comfortably in body and spirit as you leave us, knowing that the love of so many will go with you.
Janice
Helen Domshy is having trouble accessing the site and asked me to pass along these words. Lynn Box...
Marika and David
Our thoughts and prayers ae with you. Having Marika in my life has been such an empowering force. I saw Charles Jago the other night and he asked for your address. He didn't know Marika was so very ill and became quite distressed.
Helen Domshy
Dear Marika,
I was sad to hear the news of your illness when Helen Domshy passed along this blog address to me. I will always remember taking the Women and the Environment course with you at UNBC. We students would meet with you at your house and discuss that week's readings over tea and biscuits. What we learned was amazing, and your passion for the subject made it even more meaningful. I am now teaching a first-year women's studies course and I often think of you whenever I talk to the students about environmental issues.
My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Melinda Worfolk
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